Good morning, good afternoon or good evening beautiful souls.
What if I told you that orgasm wasn't a thing, that orgasm wasn't the main protagonist in our love making.
Most of us have, or I can just speak from my own humble experience that I only know what sex is non other then verious American movies with odd and short love scenes. That was my sexual education, nothing else.
What if love making is nothing like that.
I have read far too many books on the matter but obviously theory is one thing and practice is another. Eventually all those written words start making sense but only after hours of tantric sessions(and I am probably nowhere near the bliss the tantrics talk about).
Let's go back. What if orgasm wasn't the priority of the love making.un petit morte it is called in French because it is a little bit like a small death. Rather then going through the small death we could prolong the bliss not wanting to reach the small death. What actually happens when two bodies connect, we create and balance our life force, we create an optimal condition for the body to heal. (The taoists know that very well, the atomic energy in the sperm that can create life, potentions for millions of babies, is recycled into the health of our body. That is why men in older age ejaculate less, others don't even have an erection because that life force is much needed by the rest of the organs, and and can't allow it to be wasted outside of the body).
How do we do we actually make love.
I do believe in the power of initiation.
Men and women used to be initiated into manhood and womanhood by higher tantric priestess maybe gurus aswell. Obviously that does not happen any longer, but there are still tantrikas that can still teach the man and the woman the arts of lovemaking.
I know more then anything how much men want to create a beautiful space for their partners and show them every part of their heart. One thing I know for sure, men are are born lovers .
So let's let our worries , to do lists of endless tasks at the door.
Love making starts with an intention that I am present with myself and present with the other. I don't judge my wondering thoughts and I return to being present, I return to my breath, might be a simple thing but it makes all the difference. If ever you came across mindfulness, that is presence. Observing everything around us and staying with the breath.
